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If your friends are heavy drinkers, chances are that you'll be a heavy drinker too!

If your friends are heavy drinkers, chances are that you'll be a heavy drinker too!

Really, you say? Lately, I've been invited to various Mastermind groups. I've read the You are who you Surround yourself withinvites and what the meeting is about and what I'm seeing is that You Are like Who you Surround Yourself with.

If your friends are overweight, chances are you'll be overweight. If you love to exercise, chances are your friends also exercise.

It's no different with Successful careers. If you hang out with those B$%*ing and Moaning, chance are you'll spend a lot of your precious time B$%*ing and moaning too. The people we spend the most time with influence how we act and what we think.

This is why people join the Mastermind Groups, to have access to powerful minds and goals! If you don't have a Mastermind Group available to you, create your own. Read books by positive successful people.

You are who you Surround yourself with

I can say that the exercise thing was especially true for me this past year. I had lost my running partner (she went and got a job) and kept looking for friends who wanted to walk in the hills of Warner Park. Each person within a week or more would start canceling at the last minute, leaving me stranded.

I finally got hooked up with Susan and we've been running/walking 2-3 days each week since August. She always shows up. I always show up. The others? I don't want to  hear their excuses. Or their whining about their weight.

Figure out where you want to go and then find people headed in the same direction, or better yet, already there. That's who you want to spend time with.


Connie Harveyis a local agent with Pilkerton Realtors, serving home buyers and sellers in Nashville, TN, Brentwood TN, and Franklin TN. Let her help you realize your Real Estate goals. She can be reached at 615-371-2474.

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Comment balloon 20 commentsConnie Harvey • April 03 2012 12:14PM


Connie, I totally agree with you... life is too short to waste it complaining about things you don't like. Your proactive approach is the right attitude!

Posted by Monique Ting, Oahu Real Estate (INET Realty Honolulu, HI) almost 5 years ago

Hello Connie,

This is very true. I've had to change whom I choose to hang out with for this very reason.


Posted by Victor Zuniga (Berkshire Hathaway Home Services California Properties) almost 5 years ago

Monique - Thank you. Life really is too short to waste it complaining!

Victor - It's especially true if you're trying to reach important goals.

Posted by Connie Harvey, Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate (Pilkerton Realtors) almost 5 years ago

Connie a life well lived is a happy, peaceful and joyful life (no room for anything but!!)  Great Post!

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten, Arizona's Top Banana! (Phoenix Property Shoppe) almost 5 years ago

Anna - Thank you! I couldn't agree more.

Posted by Connie Harvey, Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate (Pilkerton Realtors) almost 5 years ago

Connie~ Good for you! Great inspiration. I see too many people that complain about everything and anything.. always.. nobody wants to hang out with them. I feel exhausted when i'm around somebody like that. Shed the negative and you feel better!!

Posted by Janis Borgueta, LIC RE Salesperson - Hudson Valley Homes for Sale (Key Properties of the Hudson Valley ) almost 5 years ago


I had never really thought about this philosophy before -- but it makes perfect sense to me!  Very inspirational post and I'm glad you found a new (and reliable) walking/running partner :)

Posted by Carie Shapiro (North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate) almost 5 years ago know I would show up for you!

But there would be NO running.....I'm not going to spill my wine!


Posted by Thom Abbott, Midtown Atlanta GA Condos For Sale ( |770.713.1505 | Intown Atlanta GA Condo Living) almost 5 years ago

Connie - You are so right.  We tend to hang out with people we feel comfortable with and some fo them (good or bad) rubs off on us.  So, hanging out with the those that inspire us to do great things is a wonderful idea.

Posted by Debbie Gartner, The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers (The Flooring Girl) almost 5 years ago

Hi Connie, I am right there with you and if I lived close to you I would walk as often as you wanted to and our time allowed.  I walk with a good friend but it seens lately we haven't been and I need to change this for me.  It is really great walking with someone because the more we talk the faster we walk.  Nice reminders thanks Connie and Happy Walking!WalkingI don't look like that though, well maybe 40 years ago.  LOL

Posted by Mary Stewart, Wilsonville and Surrounding Portland Metro Areas (HomeTrust Real Estate, LLC, Homes for Everyone) almost 5 years ago

Connie, great advice, and have always heard hang with successful people, and NO downers!    Glad to hear you found another walker!

Posted by Joan Cox, Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time (Metro Brokers - House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373) almost 5 years ago


Well said, I have always believed this too and as I get older I see the need to turn to some of these trusted advisers more and more.

Posted by Daniel J. Brudnok, REALTOR, SRES, e-PRO,ABR,GREEN,CSP (Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Fox & Roach, REALTORS - Exton - PA License Number #RS225179L ) almost 5 years ago


I want to thank you personally for your offer to be a mentor to me. I have elected to work with Kathleen Daniels but truly appreciative of your reaching out to me. Hopefully this is not to unappropriate place to leave this, hick!! cheersCurtis Van Carter

Posted by Curtis Van Carter, Your Napa Valley Broker Extraordinaire (Better Homes & Gardens Wine Country Group) almost 5 years ago

Connie  Interesting concept - I've never heard of Masterminds, but I know I'll look inti it

Posted by Karen Kruschka, - "My Experience Isn't Expensive - It's PRICELESS" (RE/MAX Executives) almost 5 years ago

Connie ~ Very good blog Connie.  Well, you wont catch me at a bar or hanging around people complaining all the time and not running unless someone is chasing me. LOL.  I wouldn't mind hanging out with as long as you walked.  

Posted by June Tassillo, Let me help you with the next phase of your life! (Owner/Broker RE/MAX Elite Realty) almost 5 years ago

Connie, no question you are 100% correct. Exercising and I think running in particular is addictive. So is success. Once your a runner and once your successful, nothing else will do. 

Posted by Dale Bledsoe, Realtor in Tracy, California (Crown Key Realty) almost 5 years ago
Hey, everyone. I've been away. My dad passed away last week and I've been taking care of things with no internet access mostly. I'll be back to see each of you in a few days.
Posted by Connie Harvey, Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate (Pilkerton Realtors) almost 5 years ago


...and if your friends are Active Rain bloggers, you're likely to be more successful than the average!  Good post!

Mike in Tucson

Posted by Mike Jones, Mike Jones NMLS 223495 (SUNSTREET MORTGAGE, LLC (BK-0907366, NMLS 145171) ) almost 5 years ago

Connie  I certainly it is business or vacation that has kept you from posting

Posted by Karen Kruschka, - "My Experience Isn't Expensive - It's PRICELESS" (RE/MAX Executives) almost 5 years ago

I am a positive person, but most people might think of me as a peanut brain rather than a master mind!

Posted by Ron Marshall, Birdhouse Builder Extraordinaire (Marshall Enterprises) almost 5 years ago